Why solitude is good for you
The moment I realised that there’s a vast difference between being alone and loneliness, I accepted solitude as a gift that must be treasured. Solitude helps you to define who and what you are and how to focusing on the most important person in your life, you. There is nothing to fear in spending time all by yourself.
What is solitude?
Solitude is a state of seclusion or isolation, i.e., lack of contact with people. It may stem from bad relationships, loss of loved ones, deliberate choice,infectious disease, mental disorders, neurological disorders or circumstances of employment or situation (see castaway).
Short-term solitude is often valued as a time when one may work, think or rest without being disturbed. It may be desired for the sake of privacy.
The benefits of solitude is tantamount.
- It provides an opportunity to really get to know yourself
- It’s the perfect time to nurture your introspection
- Align your thoughts with your dreams and goals
- Your innate creativity is fueled
- It is an excellent ‘tool’ for problem-solving
- Freedom from influence, distraction, tension and other people’s ‘stuff’
- Re-evaluate your likes and dislikes
- Improves your perspective
- Sparks new ideas
- Recharge and clear your mind to be free
- Greatly improve your relationships
- A higher appreciation of all your relationships
- Improve your focus, concentration and productivity
After reading the list above you can see how important it is to intentionally reserve time for solitude. Below are a few ideas on how you can make it happen for you.
- Spend time in a safe quiet place, e.g. a mosque, church, synagogue, temple or library
- If your office has a reading or meeting room, book some time to use it
- Visit a garden or the beach to reap the benefits of being in nature too
- Stay longer in the bathroom (don’t stifle that giggle)
- Spend time on your prayer mat, yoga mat, etc.
- Switch off all mobile and electronic devices like your cellphone, television, radio or laptop
- Exercise like running, yoga, walking or hiking, whatever suits you
- Creative activities like painting, writing, playing music, etc.
- Take your lunch hour alone
- Go for a walk around the block or do window shopping. Please remember to leave your purse or wallet behind to avoid any impulse buying
- Get up an hour earlier than everyone else in your home
I believe that alone time is essential to achieving balance in life. There’s no point in feeling guilty about putting your needs first. When you are taking good care of yourself, you are better able to serve others.
It may be daunting at first but once you experience exactly how powerful and beneficial it is, you will do whatever it takes to make solitude an essential ritual in your daily routine. Love it, accept it and embrace it!